11 Questions with… Trina Stewart
22 Oct 2018
Welcome to “11 Questions with…”. This edition’s guest is Trina Stewart.
If you look up “genuine” in the dictionary, you will find a picture of Trina toasting you with a glass of whiskey. I have had the pleasure of knowing Trina for about 6 years. We quickly hit it off, as we have very similar personalities, morals, and ethics. Always one to come to the aid of the small guy, Trina is a good will ambassador like no other, and will fight for what is right.
11 Questions with… Trina Stewart
1. Elevator pitch… tell us about yourself.
I am a self-employed Mom of two young adults. I am the Associate Publisher of HOSS Magazine and have a variety of clients where I offer marketing consulting services.
2. Your spouse… tell us about him.
Toby is my husband. We’ve been married for 23 years. He is the Service Coordinator at Battlefield Equipment Rentals in Cambridge. He’s much like me. A workaholic.
3. Your kids… tell us about them.
Because we were married in Quebec, my husband and kid’s have a different last name than myself. Their last name is Hackett. Christina is 21. She’s my free spirit. She’s living the dream living in Toronto and finding herself. School is not for her (even though she studied comedy for a year at Humber College), but I have no doubt that she will excel above and beyond once she finds her path. She’s my doppelgänger. Always ready for laughs and fun. She is also nicknamed “Hurricane Hackett” because she makes so much noise and plows through life with a vengeance.
Brandon is 20 years old and lives at home. He’s my detail-oriented son and very much like my husband. He is taking a year off and deciding what to do with his life. I’m very happy that both kids didn’t pigeon hole themselves in making a quick decision. Brandon is the child that I saw go from happy go lucky to taking life much too seriously. It makes me really sad that some kids put so much pressure on themselves that they lose their happy go lucky nature. I’m really trying to instil that even though you have to have a strong work ethic to get ahead, taking every situation too seriously can be detrimental to your mental health.
It’s nice to have an equal balance of serious and not so serious in the house. Now that Christina isn’t living with us, I feel the pain.
4. Do you have any pets? Tell us about them.
My dog Chloe is five and is the light of our life. With the ever approaching empty nest syndrome, Chloe has made the shift much more bearable.
5. What have been your biggest challenges as a parent?
I would say letting go is the biggest challenge. To let them make their own mistakes and not being a helicopter parent has been very tough for me. Another thing that has been difficult is giving advice, being ignored, and holding back the “I told you so”. I am always trying to go back in time and tell myself that I too did the same at their age.
6. If you could pick any career in the world for yourself, what would it be, and why?
I love what I do, but after dealing with so many people, I’d love to be a publicist. I’m a great negotiator, a great helicopter parent, and a great problem solver. I’ve got a bad habit of taking care of others before myself. I’d take care of my clients well I think.
7. Growing up, who inspired you the most?
This sounds so selfish, but I inspired me. I have never looked at someone and said “I want to be just like her/him”. I’ve always lived by trial and error. When I succeeded, I’d go “Wow, did I do that?”… when I failed, I’d learn from the lesson and never look back. I would say people or things that makes me feel inspired are Oprah, Morgan Freeman, and great ideas.
8. How do you balance work life and family life?
I’m horrible at balancing. You just do. When you need groceries, you go and do it. When you have to work, you do it. When you have to run and pick up the kids and leave work, you do what you have to do. I’m all for a family friendly work environment so you can have some semblance of balance.
With that said, I do have to point out that I’m very old school. I tried working full time in an office and raising kids. Leaving work made me feel guilty. Not picking up the kids up made me feel guilty. I lived quite a few years feeling guilty all of the time. I see other mothers in the same situation. I made the conscious decision to work from home and find a job that would allow me to do so. It started when Christina was 8 and I’ve been doing it ever since. I think it’s very important for one parent or the other to put make the kids top priority when they are young. You only get one bat at the ball to spend time and nurture them. Kid’s don’t remember what material things you gave them, they remember the time you gave to them.
9. What advice would your “current self” give to your “just about to have my first child” self?
You don’t have to iron sheets. :) Actually, I have no advice. I cherish every moment and I believe my mistakes and triumphs were lessons and an opportunity to grow.
10. Has there been a piece of advice you were given about parenting that really stuck with you?
Make a lot of noise in the house from the day you bring them home. It’s true. Still today, they will sleep through anything.
11. What advice would you give to new parents?
Two pieces. Everything that looks perfect, isn’t perfect. Just parent the best way you know how. It’ll all work out.
Don’t judge another person’s parenting skills, especially if their children are older. It will definitely bite you in the butt. Lesson learned and apologies were made when I tried to give teenager advice when I had a 4 and 3 year old. Don’t be fooled. No parent has a joyride through the teenage years.
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