11 Questions with… Candace Derickx. #bdk11Qs
30 Oct 2017
Welcome to “11 Questions with…”. This edition’s guest is Candace Derickx.
11 Questions with… Candace Derickx
1. Elevator pitch… tell us about yourself.
My name is Candace Derickx. I stepped into social media almost a decade ago as a way to promote my school supply business on the cheap. Now, the school supply business has been sold, and I do this full time. Crazy how life works.
2. Your spouse… tell us about him.
Hmmm. He just sorta rolls with the craziness. I am literally all over the map somedays, making a recipe, writing a blog post, shooting a video, recording a radio show, and he just takes it all in stride. Always supportive.
3. Your kids… tell us about them.
My favourite child has four legs and fluffy blonde hair, and my other three children resent her; she’s an attention hog. Kidding. I am a stepmom to Alex (24), who I have been lucky enough to have in my life for 17 years now. He made step parenting the easiest job on earth, and is why I always remove the “step” from any reference to him in everyday conversation. He’s as much mine as my daughters are. Morgan and Ava are entering the teen years and I am in awe of them. They are just so damn smart and so thoughtful.
4. Do you have any family traditions?
My family is way too undisciplined to have a standing tradition. We get bored quickly so we are always trying something new.
5. What have been your biggest challenges as a parent?
Working from home for the last 14 years has been my biggest challenge. It is almost impossible to get things done when my kids or husband are home. No one really gets the “do not disturb” thing around here, and that includes the dog.
6. If you could pick any career in the world for yourself, what would it be, and why?
I’m doing it. I wouldn’t give up what I do for anything. I love the freedom of being self-employed, I love the art of the hustle, and I love how social it allows me to be.
7. Growing up, who inspired you the most?
I’m the worst for these kinds of things. I can never remember that far back. As an adult though, I am inspired by trail blazers, entrepreneurs and deep thinkers. Thankfully I get to meet a lot of them in my business. I am like a magnet to people who are always thinking, always planning. A dream dinner for me would be with Malcolm Gladwell, Ellen DeGeneres and Bill Gates.
8. How do you balance work life and family life?
I don’t. Straight up. One of the very first posts I ever wrote on YMC was about the dangling carrot of balance. It doesn’t exist. The trick for me is just to be happy whichever way the scales have tipped. I just had two full weeks with my family in Holland and I didn’t give work a passing thought. Now, I’m back at my desk and my family is in fend-for-yourself mode. Related: I don’t feel bad about this. My kids are older and we’re just at that stage where being self-sufficient is expected.
9. What advice would your “current self” give to your “just about to have my first child” self?
I like the CTFD (calm the eff down) approach now. I was way too neurotic with Morgan. Poor kid. Therapy bills are going to be a bitch.
10. Has there been a piece of advice you were given about parenting that really stuck with you?
As soon as they can do it for themselves, stop doing it for them. Sheesh, I don’t want these kids here when they’re thirty.
11. What advice would you give to new parents?
Say you’re sorry. You are 100% going to mess up with your kids at some point. Letting them see that you’re human is a good thing.
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